Additional Resources

As a mother of an child with an addiction, I've tried many different tools and resources to help me along my own journey to move out of the "Mom Code" and into my "Love Another Way" strategies so that I could encourage him to overcome his addiction and regain joy in my home and my heart.

Along the way I've found some resources that truly made a difference for me and that I hope can make a difference for you, as well. I'll update this page over time as I find new resources to help.


P.S. Have a favorite resource not listed below? Feel free to share...

Email and/or jot them down in the comment box below. 

Please share your favorite resources here. Barbara will update this page from time to time.

Difficult Conversations

A book I read early in my journey is Difficult Conversations: How To Discuss What Matters. It was very useful to me.


Pema Chödrön

I lived with Pema’s voice in my ears for several years early in Eric’s journey. I still pull her CDs out from time to time. Following her message helps me control my emotions - or rather tame them - and allows me to communicate differently with everyone around me. 


She has books also for some of these. I prefer the audio. 


The first audio listed below I have purchased 6 copies of. I loan it to someone and expect to give it back. People do not give it back. People tell me they love it, but they do not offer to give it back. :) So, I buy a new copy. LOL


When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times Heart Advice for Difficult Times



The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times



Don't Bite the Hook: Finding Freedom from Anger, Resentment, and Other Destructive Emotions

Amazon (print unavailable)

Good Medicine: How to Turn Pain into Compassion with Tonglen Meditation (2 Discs)

Amazon (print unavailable)

Getting Unstuck: Breaking Your Habitual Patterns and Encountering Naked Reality

Amazon (print unavailable) 

Unconditional Confidence: Instructions for Meeting Any Experience with Trust and Courage

Amazon (print unavailable) 

Making Friends with Your Mind: The Key to Contentment

Amazon (print unavailable)

Brené Brown

Everything Brené puts out is worth watching, IMO. 


The Call to Courage - Wonderful - Netflix


The Anatomy of Trust - How the small positive things we do build trust - as she says “in very small moments.” She also talks about how ASKING for help builds trust.  


And profound comments on how we get value from being the helper in a relationship. 


Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone



Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts.



Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead


Dr. Gabor Maté

We highly recommend all of Dr. Maté's work and it is informative not just around our addicted loved ones, but may also apply to each of us. Here's the link.

The Anonymous People

This is an extremely well-made and impactful movie featuring individuals in sustained recovery.

I highly recommend everyone who has any addiction impact in their lives watch it. It's available inexpensively on Amazon. Here's the link.

Recommendations from Kara Diefenderfer, the codependency coach who works with my graduates regularly.

Kara mentioned that she can now take private clients in New Jersey as well as her home state of Pennsylvania. Here's a link to her website, where she is also posting resources.

Gratitude: A Day and Night Reflection Journal 


Journey to the Heart: Daily Meditations on the Path to Freeing Your Soul 




Happy Light

Kara has been recommending a Happy Light for about a year now. I finally ordered one because I can use all the help I get as we go into the darker months. Here’s the one I chose.

Happy Light

Personal protection device - that makes noise and flashes light

Kara recommended this for us. I’d like to suggest also it might be a good gift idea for ladies in our lives. :)

Personal Alarm

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Untamed by Glennon Doyle has been highly recommended by a number of our students and clinicians. 

This is available here on Amazon

Richie Webber

Richie Webber is a person in long-term recovery and is happy to help families find good quality treatment options. You can reach out to him on Facebook at this link. Reach out to him via the blue Send Message button.

When you're ready, here are 5 ways I can support you.

Many of these links are to Amazon. Full disclosure, as an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.