Comments on: Chaos Addiction: How to Overcome the Urge for Disorder and Turmoil

By: Barbara Decker

Barbara Decker — Thu, 25 Jan 2024 13:07:22 +0000

In reply to Lin. Hi Lin, Thanks for your note and you are welcome. It's great that you could recognize this and choose to find a better partner for yourself. -B

By: Lin

Lin — Thu, 25 Jan 2024 04:00:28 +0000

Wow! What a great article! I just ended a 6 month relationship with a guy I truly adored. He was funny, kind, generous, smart and quirky. He's been in AA for 16 year and I thought that meant he worked through those issues leading to alcoholism (abuse as a child). Boy, was I wrong. He is addicted to chaos. Couldn't be vulnerable, no growth in the relationship. I'm crushed but this article helped a lot. Thank you!

By: Barbara Decker

Barbara Decker — Tue, 23 Jan 2024 13:06:35 +0000

In reply to ROY PERRY.

Roy – I encourage you to let go of “should”. There are no shoulds. 12-step groups and therapy are great places to start when you are ready. Most of us are ready with the pain of staying the current situation is greater than what we perceive as the pain of taking new action (going to 12-step or therapy)

By: ROY PERRY

ROY PERRY — Mon, 22 Jan 2024 16:12:50 +0000

After doing some thought, I realize that I am addicted to chaos the struggles from my behaviors. I’m not really sure how to deal with it. I should be going to AA NA, and other therapy groups but I’m not.

By: Barbara Decker

Barbara Decker — Thu, 04 Jan 2024 22:30:51 +0000

In reply to Tim D. Hi Tim - Recognition of the problem is the first step and I would say it's half the battle at least. So, you are off to a good start. -B

By: Tim D

Tim D — Thu, 04 Jan 2024 19:37:53 +0000

This is a very thorough and useful article. My wife keeps telling me that I am addicted to chaos and I thought she was just making up a term but when I decided to look it up, I found this article and then it all made sense. Now comes the hard work of digging under my issues to break the addiction.