Comments on: I Have Limited Contact With My Child. Why Should I Work on My Relationship With Them Now That I Finally Have Some Space and Time? https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/ Members Portal Wed, 10 Jul 2024 12:51:47 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Barbara Decker https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1345 Mon, 24 Apr 2023 23:48:22 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1345 In reply to Jean.

Jean – It is very difficult for sure. I’m glad to hear you are focusing on his daughter and she is blessed to have you. The work we do every day in our programs is to help moms like you get to peace and find the best strategies available. And often all the choices are sucky and yet there are choices. I hope things turn around for you. -B

]]> By: Jean https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1342 Sat, 22 Apr 2023 15:21:53 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1342 My child has been struggling with addiction since he was 17 years old. He is now 31 years old. He maintained jobs, did the methadone program, and was a responsible loving father to his 9 year old daughter until he met a girl 3 months ago. He is now on the streets, no job, no car, and has only seen his daughter a handful of times in 3 months. His sense of responsibility, compassion, and sensibility is gone. He will not take my calls or respond to texts. Every day I prepare for the worst. I feel like I'm not doing enough to help him, but what can I do, I've tried everything. I raise his daughter and I feel like I need to put my focus and energy on her, but meanwhile he's drifting further and further away from us. How will he ever be able to have clarity enough to know what has to be done to get better? I feel so helpless and hopeless. This truly is hell on earth.

]]> By: Barbara Decker https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1219 Sat, 28 Jan 2023 13:00:21 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1219 In reply to Kim Olson Nordling.

Kim – It is very hard, and I’m glad you are doing the work and recognize that you are worth feeling better and the rest of your family wants the authentic you back. They miss the real you. (I’d bet money on that.) -B

]]> By: Kim Olson Nordling https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1218 Sat, 28 Jan 2023 02:00:34 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1218 I'm just really struggling with how to handle my adult son's addictions. I feel like I think about him all the time, and that my other children get whats left of me. It's a battle to stay healthy for them and try to deal with his addictions and life style. He feels like I don't care about him, but in reality, I just can't do it anymore. My husband committed suicide 12 years ago, from chronic pain. Ty is the one that found him, and I have guilt about that. I have 3 other sons and they all seem to be doing relatively well. Ty got divorced and has nothing to do with his 8 year old son, whom is also struggling dealing with his Dad, or lack of. Just trying out how to navigate this in as healthy of a way as possible. Thank you,

]]> By: Barbara Decker https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1203 Tue, 24 Jan 2023 13:36:05 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1203 In reply to Joan Houx.

Hi Joan – I’m sorry to hear that and know how difficult the silent times can be. I hope you are finding a way to take care of yourself, at least some of the time, and find at least a small pocket of joy each day. -B

]]> By: Joan Houx https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1201 Mon, 23 Jan 2023 18:22:48 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1201 Thank you so much! It’s been over four months since I have heard from my son

]]> By: Barbara Decker https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1031 Wed, 13 Jul 2022 13:57:29 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1031 In reply to Annalisa.

Annalisa – Yes, you are 100% correct. And you are worthy of a great life also. -Barbara

]]> By: Annalisa https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1030 Tue, 12 Jul 2022 22:08:24 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1030 ]]> Thanks so much. I feel really lost in what to do. I’m determined to take better care of me this year. I feel it’s the only thing I can do💔

]]> By: Barbara Decker https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1029 Tue, 12 Jul 2022 13:58:54 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1029 In reply to Sue Kremer.

Sue – That’s one of the hardest things a mom has to do, and I’m sorry you had to. However, I applaud you doing the hard thing. You matter (too) and deserve to be safe and free of the constant stress. It’s just plain unhealthy. He blames you for everything because the disease is in control. Separate the disease from your true son, who really does not blame you. If he ever chooses to get healthy, he will probably thank you. -Barbara

]]> By: Sue Kremer https://livewellandfully.com/limited-contact-child-work-on-relationship/#comment-1027 Tue, 12 Jul 2022 13:46:19 +0000 http://go-livewellandfully.mysites.io/?p=7576#comment-1027 I had to issue a restraining order on my son. He had become abusive, mostly verbally but I had become afraid of him. I have no contact with him but my other son texts back and forth with him. He is very angry with me, blames me for everything. I’m so depressed and guilty

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