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Thank you so much for your kind words, izle:) Have a wonderful week.
ReplyThanks again for the article post. Really looking forward to read more. Fantastic. Odette Erastus Giles
ReplyThank you so much. I’m trying to put up a new post each month:) I also email on this topic and you can join my email list by clicking either of the buttons on the blog post itself.
ReplyMy beautiful daughter is an alcoholic. She gets drunk every day. On top of that she is a Type 1 diabetic. The combination of the two is deadly. She knows this but seems to not care. She says she likes how she feels when she’s drunk. She drives around drunk. She is self harming but She is really masking a lot of pain. I think she thinks pain is what she deserves. She Can’t hold a job except to be a bartender. Worst job for her but it’s her comfort zone. She lives with me & pays rent & her bills. She’s so smart but I see her wasting away in front of my eyes. Everyone I’ve talked to says she has to hit rock bottom. I don’t believe that. I think it’s the worst advice. She could have a (& has had) seizures, go into a coma &/or die from diabetes complications. I don’t even try to talk to her anymore about drinking as it does no good. I know she has to make the decision to get help but I just don’t see her doing that. So I wait & do nothing. And that’s what’s frustrating & frightening. Do I just sit back & wait for her to hurt herself or someone else? I live my life without letting her interfere but emotionally I’m exhausted. Diabetes & alcohol is such a dangerous mix. My daughter is 29 & became diabetic when she was 19 nearly a year after a traumatic personal experience. She was hit twice with 2 life changing events. I do not like watching her destroy her life. But she just doesn’t seem to care. The alcohol controls her now. It’s heartbreaking to see the person she’s become. I miss my daughter. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.
ReplyI am so sorry for what both you are your daughter have been going through. Have you signed up for either my workshop? Or opted in for my free guide, the 3 Things Your Adult Addicted Child Wants You To Know and Can’t Tell You?
Either thing will get you on my email list if you are not already. I email about this topic and run programs to help moms through this. I can help. Please reach out.
My website is http://www.livewellandfully.com and my email is Barbara@LIveWellandFully.com
ReplyHope springs Eternal, is my pray, I love my son, however don’t know how to show tough love, my only child and I have MS, stress really bad on a person with MS
ReplyHi June – thanks for your note. I’m so sorry that you are dealing with both addiction and MS. My approach is not tough love – it is Love Another Way – a way which allows us to support our children in a way that is healthy for us and shifts things so they are more likely to choose recovery. Have you watched the workshop? Barbara
ReplyHi Shelly – I hear you. I eat ice cream most days even when I get up in the AM, hop on the scale, and say “no ice cream today”. The day goes on. I eat ice cream:)
ReplyMy son is still in addiction he had full control of
My life as my husband and I were not on the same
Page I set boundaries but he wouldn’t listen. I had no control of myself or my home. So I had to leave my son has anger issues as well so when he got made he would destroy our home now he is in a homeless shelter . And I don’t know how to show him that I do love him
Wow, Debbie. That sounds very difficult. Have you watched my workshop? If not, please take a listen and see how my approach to this resonates with you. You’ll know during the workshop if I’m the “right person” to help you get to a better place. I can tell you that I’ve worked with a lot of moms in similar situations and there is a way through this. I’ve had several moms who have had to leave the family home for their own well-being, and others who say they want to just disappear and become someone new.
Replymine was in a homeless shelter but he left, not sure if voluntarily or made to leave like another one he was in
are you saying you left your husband?
ReplyI am divorced. The divorce has nothing to do with my son’s addiction.
ReplyWhat a difference this program has made in my life! In the past, I was frustrated, angry and depressed due to our son’s addiction to drugs. Barbara has opened my eyes to the fact that my past efforts to “fix” him could actually drive him deeper into addiction . I needed to “love him another way” and by setting priorities in my life and creating boundaries I would not only experience a better quality of life for my husband and I but also increase the possibility that our son might eventually accept help with his recovery. There are no guarantees for his path but for us, it’s like a breath of fresh air and feeling more in control. I wish I had found this program much earlier but am thankful for the encouragement I have received. Barbara and all of the other AMAZING parents in our group taught me how to approach this difficult and sometimes embarrassing subject. I hope one day any parents dealing with this will have access to this program!
ReplyThank you so much Nancy. I love the comment about “breath of fresh air” and the amazing shifts I see you making from when you joined those short weeks ago to now:) Well done!
ReplyBarbara’s approach has made it possible for me to live without guilt – even though my son is still deep into addiction. It’s helped me accept that I can’t control the addiction but I can take control over my own life.
ReplyThank you Evelyn. I’m sorry that your son is still “in it” AND know that you have been a warrior woman in taking control over your own life, and that you know in your head and your heart that this is the best thing you can do for your son. So brave. So determined. I’m so impressed.
ReplyThis wonderful program has really helped me to regain my power. To realize that I am not at fault. Addiction is truly a disease that takes control, but we must not let it take control of OUR life as well. I have learned to set boundaries and how to support my daughter while in her recovery. Barbara’s wealth of knowledge and the support of all the other parents in the group has been tremendous.
ReplyThank you so much Sarah! You are a great student and have reaped the benefits of that in a much improved relationship with your daughter. You’ve been open minded enough to tackle this when your daughter was still young and I applaud you for that. You have given her a great gift!
ReplyNancy- thank you so much! You are doing amazing work and hearing about how much better your last conversation with your son went gave me shivers on my spine. Thanks so much for sharing this feedback!
ReplyThis life saving program helped me understand why what I had done in the past did not work. I was not dealing with my loving daughter, I was dealing with her manipulative, life sucking addiction. Barbara taught me skills that are working to support my daughter in recovery and help me to take care of myself. I have been in the program for five months and Barbara and her community of moms have been there for me every day.
ReplyThank you so much Pat! Your approach to learning something new is awe-inspiring. Such a wonderful open mine. Such a solution-oriented warrior you are:)
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