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Two years ago I made the best decision of my life. I decided to save me! I joined Barbara Decker. Not only is Barbara 100% a real person she is honest, brilliant, compassionate, experienced and cares. Forever grateful.

Tena D. Andersen

Barbara’s program truly gives Mothers a path through the pain and suffering that addiction brings to a family. My clarity and centeredness allows us both to move forward in a wise and loving way.

Kathryn Greene

Truly one of the best decisions I have made in 20+ years! Barbara and her entire staff use love and compassion in a program that is truly designed for the broken. It is well worth your time and effort to enroll!

Deborah Brightwell

Hi, I'm Barbara Decker – Mother, Certified Family Recovery Specialist, and Founder of Live Well & Fully.

Helping mothers of addicted or mentally ill loved ones find peace, strength, and hope through the Love Another Way™ framework.

At Live Well & Fully, we believe your healing is the most powerful gift you can give your family. Learn how our founder, Barbara Decker, transformed her own story of pain into a life-changing movement.

Meet Barbara

Meet Barbara

Hi, I’m Barbara Decker

Founder of Live Well & Fully, Parent Recovery Advocate, and Certified Family Recovery Specialist (CFRS).

I know firsthand the pain of loving a child caught in addiction. For years, I tried everything I could think of to “save” my son, Eric. Late-night phone calls, police visits, stolen belongings and a constant fear I didn’t know how to escape.

I read every book, joined every support group, but I kept hearing the same advice: “Set boundaries. Stop enabling.” The problem? No one told me how.

It wasn’t until a wise clinician helped me see that the person who needed to change was me that everything shifted. By learning to Love Another Way™ I reclaimed my peace and gave my son the space he needed to choose recovery.

That experience became the foundation of my life’s work.

Our Mission

At Live Well & Fully, we believe:

  • You matter – you don’t have to lose yourself to your child’s addiction.
  • You can set healthy boundaries (without guilt) in a way that encourages them to make better choices.
  • You can find peace and joy again, no matter what choices your loved one makes.

Our mission is simple: to empower mothers with the tools, community, and support they need to live well and fully; even in the face of addiction.

Our Frameworks

We use five signature frameworks to create transformation:

  • The Love Another Way Framework™ – a counterintuitive new way of caring for your adult child and guiding them towards recovery, without enabling destructive behavior.
  • The U.P.R. Protocol™ – a communication approach grounded in assuming the best of your loved one, treating the addiction or illness as the obstacle, not their intent.
  • The Smothering Strategy™ – a method for recognizing which of your responses feed the disease like oxygen feeds a fire, and which ones smother it.
  • The R.I.S.E. Method™ – a four-step process for breaking automatic patterns and deliberately building new ones that serve you.
  • The Pathway to Peace Protocol™ – a step-by-step method to help you release constant worry, reclaim your joy, and live with strength and clarity.

These tools have helped thousands of women move from desperate and powerless to confident and peaceful.

What Makes Us Different

Most programs focus on “fixing” the child. We focus on helping you – because your healing is the most powerful gift you can give your family.

  • Community support so you never feel alone.
  • Practical strategies you can apply right away.
  • Compassionate guidance from someone who’s been there.

Three Ways to Begin Right Now (Pick What Fits You Best)

There is no single right way to start. Pick the one that feels doable today.

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Free articles, guides, and tools written by Barbara and our team for moms navigating addiction or mental illness.

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Free PDF: 3 Things Your Loved One Wants You to Know

Three surprising truths your struggling adult child wishes you knew. Worry less, release guilt, start reclaiming peace.

Free Workshop: The Love Another Way Framework

Barbara walks you through the framework hundreds of moms have used to stop reacting to the chaos and start responding from clarity.

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What Other Parents Are Saying

Discover how Live Well & Fully has transformed the lives of mothers just like you.

Love Another Way™ has helped me deal with my 58 year old daughters alcoholism I have learned so much from Barbara’s words and all the sharing of the other woman in this program I recommend this program to anyone who has an addicted child

Mariann

I am forever grateful to Barbara and the whole TTBE team, and all the mothers who shared their stories and listened to mine. Being in the program liberated me from feeling helpless and alone, and gave me the support I´d been needing to find

Christina Svane

if I could give more stars I would!!! This program has “saved ME” as a parent of an addict. It has taught me how to process my understanding of addiction and has helped me to take MY life back! If your not here, you are truly missing out!

Kelly Stickrod

This program was excellent. I felt like a lifeline was handed to me when I was drowning in the uncertainty and pain of dealing with addiction in my foster kids’ lives. It helped so much to be able to connect with other moms like me.

Julia

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Setting priorities and boundaries has made such a difference in my life. LAW, TTBE and the classes are awesome. Problems are ongoing but I am reacting differently now as things arise and i’m staying calmer and handling it better.

JL

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I’m definitely benefitting from the Transformative Boundaries service. It helps so much to be part of a community going through the same traumas and family issues. The experience of both the staff and other members is so valuable.

Chris O’Brien

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“The Club” no one willingly joins, the parent of a child in addiction.This is really hard, really trying, and will break your heart many times over.BUT there is hope and clarity, and you will find it with Barbara Decker.Do not hesitate!

Mary S

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This program has – not to be too dramatic – saved my life. Managing addiction at home impacted me so that I lost myself and my joy. The measured, compassionate, direct and gentle guidance and lessons gave me back joy and balance.

Robin McKee

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I am eternally grateful to have found Barbara’s program. It has provided me an educated lifestyle and a mindset for me to live in my universe in a healthy&sane way. The knowledge, the skill sets, the courage I have are all from LW&F/LAW.

Tracey Rose

Even your most loving words can backfire. This free guide names the 5 phrases moms say most often that quietly push a struggling adult child further away – and what to say instead so they can actually hear you.

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