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Two years ago I made the best decision of my life. I decided to save me! I joined Barbara Decker. Not only is Barbara 100% a real person she is honest, brilliant, compassionate, experienced and cares. Forever grateful.

Tena D. Andersen

Barbara’s program truly gives Mothers a path through the pain and suffering that addiction brings to a family. My clarity and centeredness allows us both to move forward in a wise and loving way.

Kathryn Greene

Truly one of the best decisions I have made in 20+ years! Barbara and her entire staff use love and compassion in a program that is truly designed for the broken. It is well worth your time and effort to enroll!

Deborah Brightwell

Hi, I'm Barbara Decker – Mother, Certified Family Recovery Specialist, and Founder of Live Well & Fully.

Helping mothers of addicted or mentally ill loved ones find peace, strength, and hope through the Love Another Way™ framework.

At Live Well & Fully, we believe your healing is the most powerful gift you can give your family. Learn how our founder, Barbara Decker, transformed her own story of pain into a life-changing movement.

Meet Barbara

Meet Barbara

Hi, I’m Barbara Decker

Founder of Live Well & Fully, Parent Recovery Advocate, and Certified Family Recovery Specialist (CFRS).

I know firsthand the pain of loving a child caught in addiction. For years, I tried everything I could think of to “save” my son, Eric. Late-night phone calls, police visits, stolen belongings and a constant fear I didn’t know how to escape.

I read every book, joined every support group, but I kept hearing the same advice: “Set boundaries. Stop enabling.” The problem? No one told me how.

It wasn’t until a wise clinician helped me see that the person who needed to change was me that everything shifted. By learning to Love Another Way™ I reclaimed my peace and gave my son the space he needed to choose recovery.

That experience became the foundation of my life’s work.

Our Mission

At Live Well & Fully, we believe:

  • You matter – you don’t have to lose yourself to your child’s addiction.
  • You can set healthy boundaries (without guilt) in a way that encourages them to make better choices.
  • You can find peace and joy again, no matter what choices your loved one makes.

Our mission is simple: to empower mothers with the tools, community, and support they need to live well and fully; even in the face of addiction.

Our Frameworks

We use five signature frameworks to create transformation:

  • The Love Another Way Framework™ – a counterintuitive new way of caring for your adult child and guiding them towards recovery, without enabling destructive behavior.
  • The U.P.R. Protocol™ – a communication approach grounded in assuming the best of your loved one, treating the addiction or illness as the obstacle, not their intent.
  • The Smothering Strategy™ – a method for recognizing which of your responses feed the disease like oxygen feeds a fire, and which ones smother it.
  • The R.I.S.E. Method™ – a four-step process for breaking automatic patterns and deliberately building new ones that serve you.
  • The Pathway to Peace Protocol™ – a step-by-step method to help you release constant worry, reclaim your joy, and live with strength and clarity.

These tools have helped thousands of women move from desperate and powerless to confident and peaceful.

What Makes Us Different

Most programs focus on “fixing” the child. We focus on helping you – because your healing is the most powerful gift you can give your family.

  • Community support so you never feel alone.
  • Practical strategies you can apply right away.
  • Compassionate guidance from someone who’s been there.

Three Ways to Begin Right Now (Pick What Fits You Best)

There is no single right way to start. Pick the one that feels doable today.

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Free articles, guides, and tools written by Barbara and our team for moms navigating addiction or mental illness.

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Free PDF: 3 Things Your Loved One Wants You to Know

Three surprising truths your struggling adult child wishes you knew. Worry less, release guilt, start reclaiming peace.

Free Workshop: The Love Another Way Framework

Barbara walks you through the framework hundreds of moms have used to stop reacting to the chaos and start responding from clarity.

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What Other Parents Are Saying

Discover how Live Well & Fully has transformed the lives of mothers just like you.

Wonderful program advise anyone

Janet padalino

I found this course by chance and knew that I needed to try something new. Everything I had tried in the past failed. I have had more peace since I started this program than I had in years. You won’t be sorry. Do it for yourself.

Vickie Menendez

“After 11 years of loving an addicted son and losing myself in codependency, Live Well and Fully helped me reclaim my peace. I learned to set loving, firm boundaries, honor his struggle, and finally stop carrying his addiction as my own.”

Karen Whatley

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An amazing positive way to navigate and execute the everyday madness that comes from having an adult kid that suffers from addiction. One of the biggest wins for me is to love my son in spite of this horrible disease he has with respect.

Linda Spann

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This program gave me great insight to how I would react to my son’s addiction. I learned to recognize when he was gaslighting me , the blame game, using me when it suited him. I learned to set strong boundaries for myself to help ME..

Shelley Jarman

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At first I couldn’t understand The Transformative Boundaries Experience™ course name. Until I realised doing this work is truly transformative. Worth every penny.

Louisa Peterson

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Being the mother of an addicted adult child, as well as a therapist myself, I cannot say enough good things about this program. It is a life line for parents who feel they have lost themselves while trying to save their child.

Sheila N

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Learning how to set boundaries based on my own priorities has given me peace of mind and allowed me to move forward with my life.

Sara Koehler

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This program has been awesome. It helped me to see that I am not responsible for my child becoming an addict. I gave myself this program as my birthday gift. Best birthday present ever!!

Vickie

Even your most loving words can backfire. This free guide names the 5 phrases moms say most often that quietly push a struggling adult child further away – and what to say instead so they can actually hear you.

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