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Interested to know how to get them to take this step when they truly believe they are not mentally ill, rather it is the rest of the world that believes they are
ReplyHi Chaya, There is no “sure” way to make any person take a step. There are strategies that make it much more likely. Please take a listen to my workshop – you’ll hear some of how to do this and hear actual moms in a coaching meeting working their way through some of these challenges.
ReplyMy son passed from a fentanyl overdose 16 mo ago. From my experience, mental health evaluation must me done. Don’t wait. The hard part, finding proper treatment. There are run of the mill and there are top notch. We did both. Most importantly don’t stop loving your child because of addiction. They need you now more than ever.
ReplyOh Lynn, I’m so very sorry for your loss. I agree that it it is most important to not stop loving because of the addiction. That is a disease, like any others. Where many of us get stuck is in how to love and support our child and not enable the disease to grow stronger. And, I agree that if the person is open to mental health evaluation, it must be done. The trouble in my own life and with many of the moms I work with is that the “child” is not open to considering that they have a mental illness and, even when they are, not willing to follow the advice of the professionals. And when addiction is co-occurring, that is almost always the case.
ReplyI’m at my wits nd . I’ve been dealing with my sons addiction for 18 years . The visions cycle.. the abuse . Rehab . He quit 4 months . Relapsed and more angry and abusive than ever . I love him to my core but I’m so worn out . He has isolated the entire family from me because I’m to blame . No father involvement or assistance in raising my 3 children .
ReplyJanice – I recognize this cycle and am sorry for what you are going through. Have you watched my workshop? If not, I encourage you to do this. There are strategies that help the Mom, when the Mom is ready to try a new approach:)
ReplyI truly enjoy reading your articles. Our son has numerous Mental Health Diagnoses after 5 hospital stays and 3 psychologists. The substance abuse continues so whether there are actual mental health issues will remain unknown until he is ready to choose recovery. Our Family is living in hell trying to decide which is harder?
Hanging on or letting go
Thanks for sharing your wisdom & life experiences
Trying to find pockets of joy each day 🙏🙏🙏
Good for you Stephanie! And I content that it is possible to hang on in a way that is healthier for you and your child while at the same time letting go again in a healthy way. Make sense? That is what it took me so many years to figure out how to do:)
ReplyI am so thankful for this information. My daughter has addiction and mental health issues and it has been a long, heartbreaking road. It is still going on and very difficult for me as her Mother. I appreciate the support more than I can say…
ReplyThank you very much, Denise. It is a marathon, not a sprint for sure and hard to unravel often.
ReplyI wanted to see the video and set up a time and it never came across. I would love to watch it
ReplyHi Lori – I emailed my support team and asked them to connect with you about this via email and sort it out. Barbara
ReplyVery good informative program. Teaches what a boundary is and how to create effective boundaries and why that is so important. Teaches about the interplay between mental health and substance abuse. Teaches effective communication strategies. Teaches what codependency is and how harmful it is. This program reduces your stress immediately because you start to learn what is happening. Having a framework to understand it and what you can do to begin to improve things. I would highly recommend this program.
ReplyThank you so much, Joan. You are such an excellent student and such a caring and wise support to other moms. Special lady, you are!
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